It’s easy to romanticize marriage. The flowers, the vows, the dreams of forever. But real marriage is not just about feelings. It’s about truth. This week, a story went viral on social media: a man discovered, just weeks before his wedding that his fiancée was hiding ₦92 million in debt. When he asked for a prenup, she accused him of not trusting love. Her family called him selfish. The story doesn’t seem to be real. But really, how do you build a life with someone who hides the truth and resists accountability? We need to be clear: Love is not a license for foolishness.
The Bible says, “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church” (Ephesians 5:25), and “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). These are powerful commands. But they are not standalone. Christ’s love is holy, not reckless. His submission was never rooted in lies. A marriage cannot stand if only one person is doing the work while the other hides behind “love” to avoid correction, justice, or truth. Love is a beautiful thing, but it was never meant to operate alone. Jesus didn’t die for love alone. He died for our salvation. Trust, honesty, and wisdom must be part of any godly relationship.
We must start having honest conversations. Not every “sacrifice” is godly. Not every show of love is wise. A Christian should love fully, but also wisely. Don’t let emotion blind you to truth. Yes, we are called to forgive and to be patient, but not to enable deception or avoid hard conversations. If your love ignores righteousness and justice, it is not the love of Christ. Love must tell the truth. Love must walk in the light. So before you say “I do,” ask yourself: are you walking into a relationship built on Christ, or just swept under a pretty rug?
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