It is possible to be solely focused on what we are getting out of a relationship without taking into account the demands that the relationship places on us. You need to understand how privileges and demands intertwine in relationships. Honour the blessings your connections bring, but be mindful of the responsibilities they entail. Remember to nurture and maintain those bonds as you enjoy the joys and benefits of your interactions with others. Caring for relationships requires effort and mutual understanding; it is a two-way street. Embrace the beauty of the connections while also acknowledging the commitment needed to sustain them.
This holds true for all of your relationships in life. Including your relationship with God. You should not continue to enjoy God’s goodness and blessing while refusing to take up your cross in service of your Saviour. You have to be mindful of the demands placed upon you by your relationship with God. The Apostle Paul asks rhetorically, “If we have sown spiritual things among you, is it too much if we reap material things from you?” (1 Corinthians 9:11 ESV). Don’t just enjoy the counsel and teachings of your spiritual leaders, mentors, and teachers, understand the demands necessitated by such a connection.
Every relationship in your life comes with a tax. Your parents will place expectations on you. Your spouse will always tax you (both sides), and they will always require something from you. You may have planned ahead of time, only to have someone you consider family demand that you sacrifice that time. This is the reality of relationships. People will go above and beyond to assist you. You should be prepared to do the same. You cannot continue to treat important relationships irresponsibly and petulantly. Spend some time today reflecting on how you balance the blessings of your relationships with the demands of those relationships. Do it!
